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How to Think Through a Challenge to Dependable Solution


"Thinking, says the book: Speech: A High School Course", starts with a problem; a difficulty that is felt."

Really, if there is anything for which humanity has consistently been called out since the morning of creation I can say with a fairly high degree of accuracy that it is ' Thinking.'

Even at the individual level, it is pretty the same thing.

It is so because much of our advancements have been accomplished on the back of thorough thinking around many societal or existential challenges whether it is
in the field of natural or social science.

Therefore straight thinking is a skill worth having by everybody; more so because we are bound to be challenged every day of our life.

Among others, the challenge could manifest itself in the form a faulty car, an empty pocket, unemployment, sickness, unwanted pregnancy, barrenness, failure in examination or business, chronic single's life, rape, rejection, and loveless marriage.

 I can go on and on and on!

But which life, if I may ask, doesn't at some point in its evolution suffers one or two of these aforementioned challenges? None!

Where there is one even seemingly; it must be so categorized as a clear case of fraud.

For life without challenge just as living without prayers is fraudulent; a fallacy.

Don't get too excited, Pals, if today by some luck, magic or ingenious contrivances you are neither faced with any challenge nor are you praying to get by in life.

It is most probable they are piling up for you somewhere along the journey of life.

And you're bound to pick them up anyways as you stride on.

So brave it when it hits you any moment from now.

This goes to show that life is a constant battle for adjustment for the living.

'Therefore adjustment defined is what a man gained when he comes to himself."

The adjustment from disequilibrium to equilibrium; from discomfort to comfort.

Where there is no maladjustment as enumerated above then, an adjustment wouldn't necessarily be a topic here.

If for anything, it is because most challenges of life are largely unpredictable leaving us more often than not desperately exposed to all manners of equally contrary spirits. i.e. fears, anxiety, hypertension, low self-esteem, depression, and worst of all suicidal thoughts.

Before I go on, can we just ponder briefly these questions- I mean why problems, challenges or maladjustment at all?

The answer it must interest you lies in the fact that there is absolutely nothing in life without a purpose; a divine purpose; and that include problems or challenges as it were.

They spring up on our paths either as a test of our resolve and faith or as a filter for our becoming the very best that we can possibly be.

And the analogy still suffices here that:

"Then iron wouldn't be as tough as it comes without the true test of fire".

And the same applies to humankind. Can anyone call himself brave without been battle tried? God forbid!

So have you been grappling with some challenges and you are at a loss on how best to solve them, at least dependably; without allowing things get messier.

Now don't worry.

In a way, you are in the right company.

I'm a life coach? No, I'm not.

I'm just your regular passionate online guy who is always striving to help change the world in my own little ways in the pursuit of my 'philosophy of positively being and becoming by all'.

Many times over I've had and still have my own share of some of life's meltdowns and I didn't get overwhelmed by them. So if I'm not; I bet you can't too. All it takes is being attentive to some of the suggestion I'm about to offer here.

But before then, maybe I should share a story from my own personal experiential archive.

"Some ten or so years ago I face the first romantic rejection in my life. You know when you love a woman so much you want to go down the aisle with her. And then one day she hits you with a 'No' for an answer even when all signs had strongly indicated it’s a foregone conclusion.

Like every human, I was naturally gutted and forlorn. But my response has been that of calm assurance and perfect wisdom in the midst of this sudden romantic storm and tidal waves.

To her break up text message which reads "I can't marry you. God will provide you your own wife”. I replied, “thank God it's never too late to seek a newer world".

 Despite that confident air of positivism, It will interest you that those ten years down the line the anticipated newer world never really materialized neither for me nor her.

And today she has returned to the rejected stone http://www.dejiolaluweblog.com/2017/02/poetry-rejected-stone.html where she ought to be in the first place".

In a scenario like this, some men with different level of maturity are known to have done drastic things either to themselves or the women in question because they lack what is needed at a time like this which is ignoring the lies that they are inadequate as men or women for some reasons.

Worse still, some of these reasons may not even be your making.
Creation for all I know is based on the principle of compensation. If you lose one thing; another will be given unto you as a replacement.

And if that which you've lost is divinely yours; it would definitely navigate back to you.

So, I got my justice. End of story."

Now shall we get down to business?

Thinking through a life challenge is pretty within the grasp of those who can excite their thing faculty. And that includes those who have ignorantly taken their own lives.

I mean if not ignorance, what can possibly explain a young chap who committed suicide because he failed his semester exam.

Or a woman who was sexually abused by a gang of morally depraved men resorting to killing herself or continued to wallow in feelings of inadequacy, and shame.

Agreed they needed help; and they could have gotten it.

Many have the world because they were deliberate about it.

Now to the list of my recipes for thinking through life’s challenges to a dependable solution:

1.  Identify the problem and knowing what the immediate and remote causes are.

Like I said earlier, life challenge can be any one of unemployment, disappointment in love or business, unwanted pregnancy and so on and so forth.


The key to starting out towards a solution is identifying what yours is and knowing what the causes are immediate or remote.

It could due to a lack of self-control in sexual matters as regards unwanted pregnancy. It could be due to lack of financial prudence, non-dedication to duty as regards why a business failed.

2. Reaching out or unburdening your heart to an ally, family, and friends.

You might want to talk to someone you feel would have a superiorly matured way of looking at things from among your allies, family, and friends.

After all, the problem shared is problem half solved.

3. Be open to the possibility of a solution.

Don't shut yourself out in disbelief, ignorance, self-pity, and grief.

You're not the first to be in such a situation and would not be the last.

It doesn't matter for how long you've been under the yoke of the problem.

Never shut yourself out to the possibility of a solution by lackadaisically resigning to fate confining yourself to seclusion.

4. Be ready to go the extra mile.

The lesson of the Biblical woman with twelve years issue of blood who brave the odds of the mammoth crowd surrounding our Lord Jesus Christ to get her healing by touching the hem of his robe cannot be over-referenced.

A few snippets of the narratives that were not told would be one or all of the following.

I personally believe she must have spent quite a fortune in the interval leading to encountering Christ from consulting with one physician or the other.

She must have been abandoned by some family members and friends.

She must have become a pariah in the women associations or circles.

But she got her healing anyways because she was always ready to go the extra mile.

You can't begin to imagine how many people today have surrendered when they were closest to the solution to some of the challenges confronting them.

They simply tired out when it was the least expected of them.

And how tragic!

5. Show determination even if people have made you subscribe to unworkable prescriptions some other time.

You know just as we have fake doctors so we have certified ones.

So it doesn't matter if you've lost monies to these horrible wretches; you just have to keep on trying; more so because just as we have lies so we have the truth.

6. Learn to be calm in the face of the storm sweeping through the ward of your life.

Avoid taking a rash and irrational decision.

Christ in God who speaks peace to the raging storm and tidal waters couple of millennium ago can still speak peace to your life or circumstances.

All you need is faith and being meticulous.

Don't resort to deathly escapism yet because you fail your semester exam, got separated from your wife or husband, ran into debt and the likes.

7. Do not resort to self-help.

In many instances, it has led to serious complications and even deaths avoidably. i.e. unwanted pregnancy is a good case in point.

That's, by the way, an illustrative example. Prevention here is better than a cure.

Talk to someone in the know who might be eager to help for free or for a token.

It is better that way than attempting to help yourself around something you knew practically nothing about.

8. Motivate yourself.

It is normal to feel depressed sometimes, but what is not normal is staying depressed.

So one of the best ways to handle depression is self-motivation.

Motivate yourself through positive thinking.

You can also motivate yourself by listening to soul lifting music and motivational speeches.

Tell yourself, you're not indomitable. Engage more in group activities.

Do more of out-dooring chores.

Devote yourself to helping others achieve their set goals.

I bet in no time you will gain morale as a by-product.

Above all,
****Don't give up yet; because you're closer to a dependable solution than you can imagine.

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Opinion : On Whizkid being and dying a legend



No doubt being an entertainer in whatever genre and a raving one at that is no joke.
It comes primarily with a lot of killing pressures to satisfy the growing army of local and international admirers cum consumers.

It equally comes with the loss of privacy because both the media and the promoters are constantly pushing.

The first for secrets, scandals, and the juicy entertainment news scoops.

And the promoters luring them as ever for shows and record deals.

One concert or the other is always on the card and the thought of canceling them is one many artistes always find difficult to swallow.

Besides disappointing their fans, there is also the financial loss that comes with scenarios like that.

I know this from experience. Besides the fact that I can hum a few notes with this voice of mine that's far from being mellifluous; I can also coax some tuneful notes from the guitar.

And if my childhood band had not tumbled into premature proscription moments to gaining its hopeful progressive autopilot from hitting the prophetic dead end, I would today have been swimming in fame and fortune sort of.

But that's not to be. After all what, if not exhaustion or dehydration would end those series of energetic performances that musicians churn out every other day.

That's why when the news has it that one of Nigeria's finest musical export, Whizkid, had canceled his forthcoming concerts citing health reasons I truly felt for him.

Though this is not the first time; it was the second time coming or thereabout. News sources also have it that he likewise canceled shows sometimes in 2016 on the same health ground.

And that certainly calls for concern if artiste of his caliber and age is beginning to cite health reasons for calling off shows.

It means that the industry as widely known is so consuming or demanding and that it has led to the rampant incidences of drug use by these artistes in order to keep up with soaring demands by their far-flung and intrusive fans.

We, therefore, will not forget the many negative impacts of their recourse to drugs and other illegal substances.

But that's not where I'm going.

But before I touch the really sore area for me, let me wish Whizkid a quick recovery and stronger return to the stage. I can sense the fans will sorely miss him from the un-abating outpouring of emotion and concerts at the news break that he was taking time off music in order to properly recuperate from an undisclosed ailment.

Like I hinted above, the part that really draws my attention in the press release (or was it tweets) is the one suggesting death and being a legend.

It really got me thinking. And I've repeatedly asked myself a number of questions.

God forbid, one being that I was hoping this is not a subtle hint at suicidal thoughts which would be calamitous both for the nation and the international community.

The other is that what really is the requirements for a person to be qualified to be called a legend?

And is Whizkid truly a legend?

And what gives him the conviction that he is?

Is he just psyching us up?

In all of these, I personally think he is just pathologically exaggerating his self worth as a musician.

In his obsession with self on ascension, he let lose self-control and throws himself up for ridicule in trying to rub shoulders with the gods and goddess in the musical pantheon.


And in all our sincere devotion to his greatness yet unfolding he must be restrained at all cost.

While I don't see him die any time soon; I strongly believe with facts and figure at my disposal that Whizkid is not a legend yet. In fact not any soon.

But he has the potentials to be and I hope he will.

My point is if he is a legend as he claims then what is King Sunny Ade, Fela Anikulapo Kuti, Bob Marley, Victor Olaiya of this world.

I think Whizkid should sit down and concentrate more on growing his career and not play up deathly pranks so he can swindle us into buying his overarching legendary goof.

He should forget about his sell-out concerts; his cars; his mansion(s); his women or baby mamas if you wish; he is not the first from Nigeria to achieve such. So many have and I won't waste my time here naming names but the records are there.

I don't see anyone becoming a legend doing anything for a decade or less.

Whizkid can become a legend as he truly wishes or predicted and he has the years ahead to achieve that milestone in his musical sojourn.

The time begins now and he is on the right track.


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Lifestyle: Ready or not, these 6 things will happen to you


O yes! Life's a school; a devoted and pervasive one at that in which no one truly graduates and its classes go on and on until we're six feet under the ground.

It teaches its lessons too in a variety of ways.

Sometimes gently or subtly and sometimes hard.

Knowing this, however, doesn't presuppose that it will exempt any of us from some of its core teachings or courses as it were.

Nevertheless, I know we all want to stay in control of so many things; monitor our progress and if possible stay ahead of our class.

Like being successful and not being a never do well.

"And that reminds me of the quote by G. B SHAW which says:
There is no such person who can do what he likes when he likes it,  how he likes it or chooses not to do anything at all; and there will never be any such person."

One instructive fact behind this quote on life is such that nobody is really doing what he or she likes other than being an obedient organism consciously unconsciously obeying or responding to a number of molding stimuli life keeps throwing at us.

Then what are those six things that will almost certainly happen to us whether we consented or not?

#1) GROWING:

From the moment we were born, this process becomes part and parcel of our make up.

This physical change is inevitable, continuous and unstoppable.

It requires no input from anybody except that it thrives on incitements from natural activities like eating, drinking and sleeping.

Let assume we don't even eat well the worst that could happen to is stunted growth.

But growth is growth, and nature has its way as usual.

#2) TRIALS OR MISFORTUNE TIME:

Life as a cyclical continuum has in store for every living soul trials or what I can also call misfortune time.

The only variables are the magnitude and timeframe.

Usually, it will occur at an interval of ten years or thereabout.

But sometimes it varies.

Starting from ages 18-21 onward, everybody should expect his or her trials or misfortune time on a regular basis until old age if we're lucky to reach that milestone.

It strikes like a rush of wind sweeping the wards of our lives and it is less concern whether we are ready or not.

But the better prepared we're the more we're able to cope with all its questions minimizing the usual 'why me' that often characterize such occurrence in the life of many.

#3) FORTUNE TIME:

This is the reverse or obverse if you like of the above.

The one everybody fervently prays for.

Every living soul has got his date with its fortune time and it will surely come whether or not you are ready.

You might be working but you never can tell when your fortune time will come.

It could as well be your needed tonic or wind to mount up higher on the ladder of success like the eagle in flight does at the instance of a column of hot winds.

And yes, it could also be squandered leaving the concerned soul to wait for the next fortune

#4) LAUGHTER:

Laughter is an involuntary reaction common to the human being.

And it is contagious.

Even when you are a confirmed sadist, you still are susceptible to laughing when some situations simply urged you on.

But for the normal everyday human person laughing is inevitable.

It could be when you are watching comic stunts by your favorite actor/actress or stand up comedian performing on the theater stage.

It could also be because against all odds a thing of joy has happened in your life.

#5) CRYING:

We all cry for joy at times.

But ready or not, when a sad occurrence takes place in and around us a normal human being responds with sorrowful tears.

Even the steeliest of men and women do.

#6) Death:

This is the inevitable physical end for all human being.

It has nothing to do with age, social, political and economic statuses.

The young and the old will die.

The rich and the poor too will die and it's not a question of if you are ready or not.


"So I leave you with these words from Mahatma Gandhi which says: Learn like you will live forever; live like you will die tomorrow."

So I submit.

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How to develop ideas in writing or speech: The 9 important materials you needed to


As a writer or speaker, there's this natural tendency to write or speak about people, places, and events.

And that's cool.

After all, it's the people that shape events, history, develop and occupy places as it were.

But hey a writer or speaker who knows his worth should endeavor to write more about ideas.

If for anything they rule the world.

They are the fulcra upon which the world revolves.

The stuff people no matter their state or station constantly thirst after.

And if knowledge is a collection of facts and wisdom its practical application; common sense, therefore, tells me that the cores of the two above are chiefly ideas and nothing else.

Otherwise, they wouldn't be standing firmly on their four legs.

It is ideas that gave rise to cutting edge events, products, services and so on and so forth.

In fact, all creations spring forth from a succession of ideas.

However in developing any idea whether in writing or speech some materials are simply crucial no matter the specialty or genre.

Without them, the content will lack the expected substance and would become like a wandering shadow of what the writer wishes it to be.

And that's not good for the writer's reputation or aspiration especially if he truly wishes to convince and influence, and build a strong back line of faithful followers like his favorite writers or speakers.

Above all, the writer who commits these to mind will pack-a-punch in his every output.

And what are they?

In sequential order, I present to you the nine needed materials for developing ideas in writing or speech.

#The first is a definition:

The definition is basic to all explanatory process.

And there is nothing absolute about it. Everything is relative; a function of degree.

For example, in defining a man there is no such person as absolute conservative or liberal.

Everybody possesses a quantum of liberality and conservativeness in them.

For there to be an adequate explanation, therefore, words and concepts must be adequately defined. I mean stating what they mean literarily.

In doing this, the first sure aid is the dictionary.

To define a word, group of words or something, according to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, is to portray their essential nature.

This description helps brings directly home the functional relationship between the word or group of words with what the writer or speaker is trying to pass across to his reader or hearer.

#The second is repetitions:

Repetition is equally basic to the communicative process.

Another word for repetition is emphasizing.

When a writer repeats or emphasizes a word or group of words, he simply does so to call attention to it in the strong belief that it is not only beneficial to the audience but also to the advancement of his literary cause.

When the speaker repeats a word, he wants his hearers to commit the same to mind because somewhere along the line it might be worth a reference in discussions.

#The third is an example:

An example is something cited to concretize an explanation in progress.

For instance when a writer says many countries are now going the way of biotechnology to meet their growing food needs.

To concretize this statement, he might cite a few examples by saying countries X, Y, Z has gone the way of biotechnology to meet their food needs.

By so doing the reader is at once become aware of these countries because the writer has mentioned them and did not just leave him stranded in the middle of nowhere.


#The fourth is illustration:


This is one word that can easily be confused with an example.

But the two are functionally different.

To illustrate means to brighten. And this can be achieved by different methodologies.

An example can be cited to clarify a narrative.

A story can also be recalled to enrich another story.

A picture can be inserted into a storyline to bring it clearly into the understanding of the reader.

No wonder in journalism a picture is said to equal a thousand words.

So any illustrative techniques most suited to the writer or speaker can be deployed to achieve his end purpose.

#The fifth is imagery:

By imagery, we mean word picture.

That's the capacity of words used in certain ways to bring meaning fuller home in the minds of the listeners or readers.

Here words are deliberately impregnated with meanings other than those they would literally mean.

And so they must be helped to safe deliveries when the hearer gets to familiarize himself with applicable literary devices.

It brings the beauty of language to the fore more than all else.

#The sixth is stories and personal experiences:

In developing ideas whether, in writing or speech, the place of stories and personal experiences cannot be overemphasized.

They come handy in the development of ideas when a speaker or writer shares an account of a story he was privy to or his own personal experience.

It also enriches a narrative.

#The seventh is quotations:

Quotations are equally essential in developing ideas.

A speaker may decide to cite a quote from notable politicians or state men to drive home his points.

So it's not out of place to hear a speaker say: listen to this quote from the former British statesman, Sir Winston Churchill.

No doubts hearers at all time are more than eager to hear such quotes from people they hold in high esteem.

Excitement at that point is raised to the roof.

And sometimes too it does not matter who they are or where they are from as long as their quotable quotes resonate with the issues at hand.

#The eight is statistics:

Statistics are number and figures surrounding an event.

It is a mathematical specialty that involves the collection, analysis, interpretation, and presentation of data.


Or put differently, a collection of quantitative data.

A writer or speaker is required to sometimes back his write ups with facts and figure in order to give the report substance.

For instance, if a speaker wishes to give us the figure for the number of unemployed persons in a country; the quoted figure must not only be accurate, it must reflect other statistical elements.

To do justice to this task, there are about five clearly segmented questions he must answer.

And they are as follow, he must:

1) Precisely determine what the term in focus means?
I.e. who is an unemployed person?
       And who is an illiterate?

2) To what extent do the statistics measured what we wish measured?

3) Are the units compared really comparable?

4) Do the statistics cover a sufficient number of cases?

5) Is the average a typical measure of the group?

#The ninth is visual aids:

A number of visual aids exist for the use of a speaker or even a writer.

And he must avail himself the full benefits of one or more where necessary if everything is to go fine.

Some of these visual aids include graphs, charts, and slides.

Your favorite instructors, teachers, and marketers deploy them to their advantages.

And you should; I insist on everything being equal.


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Opinion: Behold Nigeria! In the light of their relentless proliferations: are your kings still kings and the inner linings of their crowns sacred

     
 Alaafin of Oyo, Oba Lamidi Adeyemi (lll)
Once upon a time, our kings were known to be kings indeed and the inner linings of their crowns sacred.

I am referring to the time when there are not many of them and when indeed their words were laws, and nobody dares steep in contempt their declarations.

I am talking also about a time when the process that normally throws up a new king was not just lucid but predictable, comprehensive and divine.

In Yoruba land for instance, after a reigning Oba has rejoined his ancestors, the selection process for his successor is usually narrowed down to include a couple of eligible ruling houses for ease of procedural management by the kingmakers.

In a few exceptional cases, the selection process could even be narrowed down to just one ruling house where it is a fact of history that the ruling house in question is the next in line to produce the new Oba.

A classic example was the one which led to the emergence of the current Ooni of Ife, Oba Enitan Ogunwusi.

Finally, Setiu or Ifa is consulted and whosoever it chooses automatically becomes the new king and everybody go home happy.

You will agree with me that time indeed has changed and in so many respects too.

But what do we have these days?

In defiance to the sanctity of the scenario so described above, we have seen situations where ambitious money bags without royal blood flowing in their vein make a frantic attempt to hijacked and desecrate the process.

Some have succeeded and it does not go without far-reaching consequences for both the realm and subjects concerned.

We have also seen situations where the process has degenerated into violence and mindless killings of each other by rival ruling houses which are laying claims to the vacant stools.

Perhaps the most disturbing one to me would be the unwarranted multiplicity of kingdoms and kings across the land which started during the military era when royal stools all of a sudden become dole for loyalists, and more so a tool for whittling down the powers and influences of pre-existing paramount rulers of the concerned realms.

Only recently, in a move I considered to be unprecedented in the history of chieftaincy and traditional matters anywhere in the country; well, I might be wrong; the Oyo state governor, Ajibola Ajimobi, elevated 29 whopping former Baales and quasi-chiefs to the status of Obas.

The class does not matter here.

And I can only hear the rumbling of a thousand Shekere and the chorus of 'Oba n ki o' translated to mean the king salutes rending the air.

While I want to felicitate with the new modern day Obas for ascending to the thrones of their forefathers that is if there are any in the first place; I wish to query not just their relevance but also the motive behind the action of the governor in the face of societal realities which deemed such unsustainable.

Let me say may their reign be long even though it would be done largely in vacuum understandably going by the 1999 constitution of the federal republic of Nigeria as amended.

Today's Obas and their counterparts across the country have been reduced to merely beggarly foot soldiers and stooges of political authorities headed by the governors.

They are equally a drain on the lean resources available to the various levels of governments.

Their enthronements and dethronements are done at best according to the dictates of the whims and caprices of governors.

No one can forget the sudden disgraceful removal of former Sultan of Sokoto, Ibrahim Dasuki, by the government of late General Sanni Abacha.

In fact, that has been a regular recourse of all state governments in Nigeria since the day of military rules like I pointed out earlier.

And the reasons for these are not farfetched.

I remember it was the practice of successive military junta that feels threatened by the nonconforming existing A-list traditional rulers to try and whittle down the power and influence they wield within their realm so they resort to the proliferation of kingdoms and kings around them who would in turn act as a check on them.

Looked at from another perspective, has any constitutional provision been breached?

Not really because the constitutional right and privilege lie with the democratic authorities to so act.

But then it might also pique your mind as it does mine that what roles are the new kings meant to perform?

Besides being the saving basket or custodian of the culture of the people; the role of our kings have become at best ceremonial overtime if not completely irrelevant.

Can someone tell me what the creation or elevation of a staggering 29 Obas in addition to the existing multitude will be doing if not merely to satisfy primordial craze by our people for the beads, titles, and crowns?

I mean how a state can be having an Oba or traditional ruler per every kilometer of the realm knowing full well that the constitution has not made any provision for them whether to join the governor and other elective public officials in discharging the governance responsibility to the state.

To me, it is an act of political recklessness and disservice to the traditional institution itself on the part of the governor and whoever is planning to replicate the same.

For God's sake, we are not in a monarchical system. And even if we are certain we do not need this multitude of kings to survive as a people.

They do not and will not enhance their importance as an emblem of our cultural revolution.

Instead of multiplying the offices of the Obas, if anything, will only ridicule their offices in the eye of the global community because I cannot remember any society the world over with as many traditional rulers like we have in this part of the world.

And I am speaking here with particular reference to the Yoruba nation.

My fear then is that before long if nothing is urgently done about this needless proliferation, we might just be having in no time an army of idle kings without a war to prosecute.http://www.dejiolaluweblog.com/2016/11/salutations-to-the-shekere-html
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